Abuse

Abuse comes in many shapes and forms. It can be physical or mental and it can really damage a person. In my experiences with abuse I truly believe that mental abuse can have the most damaging and long lasting effects. Mental abuse usually consists of mean and demeaning words. I have actually known people who have suicidal thoughts over it. Yes folks mental abuse is that powerful. It can cause people to isolate themselves from the outside world and can make someone feel lost, confused, frightened and alone. I personally have dealt with it on many levels such as relationships or people that feel the need to put people down to make themselves feel better. In the last two months I have experienced mental abuse to the extreme. I personally wont call anyone out so I can avoid the drama but they know who they are. I want to tell these people that it really bothers me so much to the point its affecting my personal life and relationships. They say words of encouragement goes a long way well I suggest they practice what they preach and realize everyone has a breaking point. The last two months have been hell for me but I honestly do feel that I have brought a lot of  it on myself. I am trying to work on making myself a better person so as to avoid this. I have never been a big drinker but in the last two months I have been drinking as to try and forget the horrible things that’s going on in my life. Its sad to say but it doesn’t work because I still have reached my breaking point. I still function well though. I still am able to take care of my daughter which is good but my emotional state is one that I just haven’t been able to deal with. I take solace in the fact that I have a good job, and my love for my daughter makes me not do anything stupid. Honestly if I didn’t have my daughter I don’t know where I would be. I thank God every day that she is there for me. I have been experiencing a lot of chest pains which scares me though. I always get chest pains when I am stressed which is definitely not a good thing. I know that it’s time to let go of the things that’s causing me stress but honestly its hard. Believe me I have tried. I have come to the conclusion that people like seeing one upset to the point that it makes them feel powerful so they keep going but what they don’t realize one day they are going to hurt the wrong person and they are going to feel bad if something happens but that’s only if they actually do have a heart but I’m betting that they wouldn’t care in the least. I truly hope that karma doesn’t come knocking on their door and happen to them because its really something I hope they will never experience. I honestly wouldn’t wish this feeling on my worst enemy. Yes I do have a heart and I care about others even the ones I feel have done me wrong. The type of person I am if I see someone in pain no matter who they are I would try and make it better. I have went to plenty of people I didn’t like and tried to help them through whatever they were going through. One example was there was a guy who I hated and saw he was going through a tough time and I spoke to him and its quite weird that we are good friends now and talk for hours. I feel good about myself that I was able to push the hatred and animosity away and help this person through their trying times. Its weird how things work themselves out. If I can help someone then the rest doesn’t matter. I only wish other people were that kind. The moral of this long blog is to tell you that everyone yes including you has a breaking point. My new motto is try and treat others as you want to be treated. You could really save a life in the process. Stop making people feel as though they are nothing and you will be quite pleased with the outcome. Have a good day everyone. I will shut up now because I am starting to get upset. Yes I might be a huge bitch at times but just like you am not perfect and yes I do have a breaking point and deserve to be treated like a human being and not as a nobody who doesn’t have feelings because I do.  Have a blessed day.

Shelly AKA as you all call me Duffy

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Cyberbullying

Social media harassment otherwise known as Cyber bullying is one of the leading causes of suicide all around the world. Its caused when adults or children harass, intimidate or threaten another person. Cyber bullies can be any age and any race. Social media harassment is an ongoing problem that affects a large number of people. Most of the cyber bully’s are either miserable in their own life or sometimes are just plain assholes. That’s putting it mildly. There is no other way to put it. It usually starts out as mean words or mild harassment and grows into something way worse. Usually the cyber bully’s are so miserable that they cause pain to make themselves feel better. They make you feel like you are nothing and continue to do so as long as they see it’s affecting you in a negative way. If you are a victim of cyber bullying just remember the saying sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. Once they see it bothers you they will continue until you decide just to ignore them. I have been a victim of cyber bullying and have been in a very dark place in my life for the last month. I’ve been called a piece of shit, been told I’m a horrible person, made to feel like I’m nothing and have had people make fun of my looks to the point that I got so upset that it affected my health, mind and well being to the point where I’ve been sick, not eating, headaches and chest pains. Without the help of my friends encouraging me (you know who you are) that I am indeed a good person and not to listen to what worthless asshole’s think about me. I have decided to take back my life and not let these people affect me. I have decided the very best thing to do is ignore the non factors. They have no bearing on our lives. Once you start to realize this you will feel much better and have less stress in your life. When it affects your health you need to realize they are just not worth it. People like 6that have no sympathy or empathy. Your pain is their gain and once they see you upset they keep going and unless you stop letting it control your life, fight back and ignore them. It might take a few days, a week or a month but eventually you will forget about them and start living a more fulfilling and happy life. Take back your life and show them it doesn’t bother you.

Depression Statistics

Statistics say that the  number of people globally who are affected by some form of depression are about 350,000,000. The percentage of adolescents who have  depressive order by the age of 18 is around 11%. The percentage by which women are more likely than men to experience depression in their lifetime is 70%. The estimated number of U.S. adults who had at least one major depressive episode is 16,000,000. This made up approximately 6.9 percent of all adults in the country. The estimated annual cost of depression in the U.S  due to lost productivity and health care is 80,000,000,000. The percentage of Americans with major depression who don’t seek treatment for the mental illness is approximately 50%. To read full story go to http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/20/depression-statistics_n_6480412.html. Depression is a very common occurrence. Many people through out the world are affected by depression. If you feel lost, helpless, depressed, anxious or scared it may be a sign of depression. If you or anyone you know are plagued with suicidal thoughts, please call the national suicide prevention lifeline at 1 (800) 273-8255. They are open 24 hours a day and 7 days a week and speak English and Spanish. Don’t let your depression get away from you. It’s very common and can be treated with the right doctors. Always know there are people who care. If you know someone who is suffering, please don’t ignore. Help them to move in a positive direction. Some people make it worse on you but others will lend an ear and listen to your thoughts and concerns. Others will try and add to your misery. Some people get off on causing others pain. It makes them feel empowered.If you know people like this then steer clear and stay away from them. I write this blog as truthfully as I can because I know how it feels to be depressed and suicidal and I am here to tell you it gets better. In my honest opinion Bullying and money problems are the most common denominator of depression.

Shelly aka Duffy

Loving it!

Today has been such a good day! I woke up refreshed and in a wonderful mood. I really have a sense of peace and I feel like nobody can take it away. Its been drama free so far and I’m going to keep it that way. I feel like I’m starting to love myself again and I’m not going to let anyone take that away from me. When you love yourself it really puts things into perspective. This is going to be a short blog post. I Just wanted people to see how my mind frame today.  Its been very quiet. I’ve got my 80’s music playing and that always makes me feel good. Treat others how you would want to be treated is my motto that I TRY to follow. I’m not always good at living by that but I try. Just remember when you treat others like shit you get karma 10x. I’m living proof of that. I’ve had karma at times come back on me so I know.  Save the drama for yo mama. That’s my message to everyone today. Thank you and enjoy your day ❤

Perfect fortune cookie message: Your ability to find the silly in the serious will take you far.

Shelly aka “Duffy”

Thank you!!

Today has been a very good day. I have learned not to care about what meaningless people think about me especially complete strangers that I have never met and don’t care to. They are not paying my bills so i shouldn’t be bothered at what they think about me. I have learned that loving myself comes from within and if you don’t love yourself then you shouldn’t expect anyone else too. I have also learned that everyone makes mistakes and absolutely nobody is perfect. I am a firm believer that as long as you learn from your mistakes and strive to be the best person that you can, there is nothing that can stop you from achieving happiness. I had to learn that these people don’t give a shit about anyone but themselves. They sit back and laugh when someone is hurting. It makes them think they accomplished something good. Don’t worry about how people view you. Worrying about how people viewed me last night and this weekend gave me such bad anxiety to where i had nausea, vomiting, chest pains and crying over nothing. Because that was what is was. Absolutely nothing  I ended up in the walk in clinic today sick as a dog. I thought I had a stomach bug. I found out it was all anxiety. Nobody is worth the stress. Nobody! Thank God I have some great friends who gave me wisdom, courage and the ability to reevaluate my life. So a great big shout out to everyone on twitter that helped me through the last few days. You know who you are.  You are all wonderful individuals and don’t listen to what unhappy miserable nobodies say about you. We know who we are and who we are not. Just because somebody puts us down doesn’t make it true.

Duffy